Does your child spend most of their time on the phone, argue or respond irritably - or even with shouting - when asked to put it down, sleep poorly, or postpone schoolwork because of time spent on a phone or tablet?
Excessive use of phones or tablets among children has become a common concern for many parents, especially when irritability and restlessness appear when the device is taken away, or when attention, interest in other activities, and family harmony start to decline. In such situations, timely support, sensitive rule‑setting, and a joint search for balance between the online and offline world can make a real difference.
At EUNOMA Clinic, we often meet parents who are looking for ways to ease the tension around rules for mobile phone or tablet use. Our goal is not to forbid technology, but to help families find a healthier balance, understand what their child is seeking in the online world, and set meaningful boundaries together. A sensitive yet practical approach is often the first step toward positive change.
As a first step towards talking with your child without arguments, these ten tips may help:
1. Make time for the conversation
Avoid talking in the middle of an argument or strong emotions; instead, choose a quiet moment that feels safe for both of you.
2. Sit at your child's level
Sit so that your head is at the same level as the child to promote a sense of equality during the conversation. This will prevent the child from feeling that you are "superior" .
3. Ask how your child feels and what they need
Try questions like: “How do you feel when I limit your phone time? What do you miss most about it?” Understand the child’s motivation and emotions connected to their phone or tablet, and the meaning technology holds in their world.
4. Avoid criticism or judgement
Aim to understand your child’s online world and what their phone represents for them. Keep an open mind and refrain from judging or evaluating.
5. Explain your perspective and feelings
Share your concerns or fears openly, using concrete examples from daily life.
6. Be honest, according to your child's age
Speak truthfully about risks and describe what changes you’ve noticed, in a way that’s age‑appropriate and not frightening.
7. Look for compromise
Avoid imposing strict bans; instead, work toward a joint agreement through open discussion. Restrictions alone are rarely effective.
8. Tailor the rules
Set phone or tablet rules individually for each child, and don’t hesitate to adjust them as your child grows.
9. Repeat the agreement
Summarize out loud what you both agreed on and let your child confirm it verbally.
10. Pause the conversation if needed
If you feel the discussion is spiraling or getting out of control, postpone it. It’s better to take a break than to let emotions escalate.
A common mistake is reacting emotionally by imposing strict bans—or constantly being on the phone yourself. Children often see this as unfair. If conflicts persist and the rules don’t seem to work, reach out to a specialist for support. At EUNOMA Clinic, Mgr. Kristýna Březová helps families set healthy boundaries and manage emotions around technology through addiction counseling.
Schedule a consultation on-line via our booking page.
I have been working in the field of addiction counselling for more than 10 years. I hold a bachelor’s degree in Addictology from the First Faculty of Medicine and a degree in General Medicine from the Second Faculty of Medicine, Charles University. In my research, I focus on preventive medicine and epidemiology.
In my work with clients, I combine evidence-based knowledge with a holistic approach to mental health. My medical background enables me to understand the broader clinical context and to better support each client’s individual needs.
